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Welcome to our very first blog post!
So my bud and I decided to get some much needed fresh air and headed to the park one crisp morning. There were men, women and children(shouldn't they have been at school?). So many people and everyone with different body shapes, aesthetics and age. Thin women, fat women, average sized women, tall women, short women, pears, apples and oranges.
Thinspiration is a scary word and it is surprising how much pressure I feel to be a size 2(not 0-that's just gross). Then there is the other side that believes that "real women have curves" and "all shapes must be celebrated". I look around me and I see fat women/girls being sneered at and made fun of for not being the societies version of "thin". So who decides if I am "healthy" "beautiful" and "thin enough"?
A good friend of mine faces the rudest kind of judgement from men who are potential mates. "Not thin enough"; my 10 year old cousin was called "moti" by her maths teacher. On the other side another friend is regularly told that she is too thin and looks like a child. We as women are in this constant battle with the society and with ourselves - I am good the way I am. Although, after years of comments and judgement the belief gets more and more shaky. And so starts the battle to please people, the constant dieting, the weight gainers, hormone treatment for increasing height, breasts or butt.
I have recently decided that I will not participate in this war. After being at war with myself for years, I still find myself admiring women who are thinner than me and feeling pity for the fat ones. I now try to stop myself from judging people based on their body shape. Fat= lazy, dirty, Thin=pretty, role model.
Here is a great essay from Robin Lawley the "plus" size model (she is only a size 10) on the daily beast. Read it, her writing skills are much better than mine and communicate the judgement she faces as a plus size model. Here is the link http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2013/10/28/robyn-lawley-why-the-dangerous-thigh-gap-trend-makes-me-mad.html
Btw, did you guys know that there is a size 00. Meaning smaller than 0, most models are this size.
I dont want to be a size 00 or a 0. I do want to fit into a lbd from 2 years ago by the end of this year. I decide.
Welcome to our very first blog post!
So my bud and I decided to get some much needed fresh air and headed to the park one crisp morning. There were men, women and children(shouldn't they have been at school?). So many people and everyone with different body shapes, aesthetics and age. Thin women, fat women, average sized women, tall women, short women, pears, apples and oranges.
Thinspiration is a scary word and it is surprising how much pressure I feel to be a size 2(not 0-that's just gross). Then there is the other side that believes that "real women have curves" and "all shapes must be celebrated". I look around me and I see fat women/girls being sneered at and made fun of for not being the societies version of "thin". So who decides if I am "healthy" "beautiful" and "thin enough"?
A good friend of mine faces the rudest kind of judgement from men who are potential mates. "Not thin enough"; my 10 year old cousin was called "moti" by her maths teacher. On the other side another friend is regularly told that she is too thin and looks like a child. We as women are in this constant battle with the society and with ourselves - I am good the way I am. Although, after years of comments and judgement the belief gets more and more shaky. And so starts the battle to please people, the constant dieting, the weight gainers, hormone treatment for increasing height, breasts or butt.
I have recently decided that I will not participate in this war. After being at war with myself for years, I still find myself admiring women who are thinner than me and feeling pity for the fat ones. I now try to stop myself from judging people based on their body shape. Fat= lazy, dirty, Thin=pretty, role model.
Here is a great essay from Robin Lawley the "plus" size model (she is only a size 10) on the daily beast. Read it, her writing skills are much better than mine and communicate the judgement she faces as a plus size model. Here is the link http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2013/10/28/robyn-lawley-why-the-dangerous-thigh-gap-trend-makes-me-mad.html
Btw, did you guys know that there is a size 00. Meaning smaller than 0, most models are this size.
I dont want to be a size 00 or a 0. I do want to fit into a lbd from 2 years ago by the end of this year. I decide.
I think pretty much everyone deals with this issue in the exactly wrong manner.
ReplyDeleteIf a child gets bullied in school about her looks or size, they're usually comforted with lies about how they are "just as beautiful/pretty as anyone else".
I think a better lesson at that age would have been to stop tying ones self worth to the way one looks.
Being healthy, rather than aiming for a particular size.
Of course, the closer you conform to society's current perception of beauty gives you an undue advantage at interviews and finding partners and so on. But that's human nature. What I find absolutely fascinating is how these perceptions change periodically. Fat, chubby women were considered the epitome of desirable once, because it implied that were wealthy and fertile. Thin was just ugly. For malnourished, common folk. Then there was this curves era. Now it's err.. stick thin? Or is that also over? I'm not sure anymore.
Even as i mention this, I feel the weight of how much pressure society puts on us to do things we wouldn't care about is they didn't.
Personally, I'm on a war against ironing. Crumpled clothes are just as neat as ironed ones and I can be just as productive in them, if everyone would stop being such judgemental pricks.
"I think a better lesson at that age would have been to stop tying ones self worth to the way one looks." You make a very good point here.
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